Understanding Sexual and Technological Addictions. Are You Or Your Children Already Addicted? Part II

Lawrence W. Daly, MSc

Albert Einstein Français : Portrait d'Albert E...
Albert Einstein Français : Portrait d'Albert Einstein (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
“It has become appallingly obvious that our technology has exceeded our humanity.”
Albert Einstein
Each day the number of technological and sexual addicts increases. The increase comes about when something in the technological field expands the opportunity for another gadget to find its way into someone’s life. The iPhone is a perfect example of bringing the Internet to young adults who had never surfed the Internet prior to purchasing it.

These young adults want to be part of the “in” crowd. The “me too syndrome” plays a major role if a new game, telephone, iPads, and so forth will be successful and each person who can say I have that, makes them a part of something. The attitude is if their friend is getting one or has one, then they should purchase one to.
So the revolving door continues to spin out of control with a multitude of individuals
SAN FRANCISCO - MARCH 02:  The new iPad 2 (L) ...
SAN FRANCISCO - MARCH 02: The new iPad 2 (L) is displayed next to an original iPad (R) during an Apple Special event to unveil the new iPad 2 at the Yerba Buena Center for the Arts on March 2, 2011 in San Francisco, California. Apple CEO Steve Jobs unveiled the iPad 2 as the successor to its popular tablet, the iPad. (Image credit: Getty Images via @daylife)
 rushing through the doors to the counter to purchase what all the media outlets having been talking about for months. If the gadget does not provide the sensationalism surrounding the product, then the success of the gadget will be jeopardize.

Once the product is purchased, then the opening of other doors occurs, such as accessing the Internet. Here is where the technological addiction attracts other addictive behavior. Sexual addiction occurs when the individual while learning his new gadget finds they can access pornographic websites. All they have to do is provide a credit card number to the website and inside they will go to explore a new world of excitement and sexual pleasures.

There is no one to monitor their behavior as just like being able to purchase the new techno gadgets with their parent’s money, they will utilize any financial means to accomplish fulfilling their needs. Years ago when people lived from pay check to pay check families had to prioritize how and where they would spend their money.

Today the amount of money which is expended every month on mobile telephone bills, cable and dish television, and other services, there has to be something which isn’t paid. How long will these types of financial demands and responsibilities last is unforeseeable?

The need for regulating these financial demands and responsibilities has to come from the father and mother, some who themselves are part of the problem not the solution. In reality the young adults are not the only individuals pursuing the new techno gadgets or pornographic websites, it is the parents who are supposed to demonstrate financial control.

The costs of addictions are staggering. In the alcohol and drug industry people expend anywhere from 207 dollars a year (Marin Institute on Alcohol Abuse, 2004) dealing with their addictions. According to the National Household Survey on Drug Abuse (2003), 50.1% of the U.S. population older than 12 drink alcohol, constituting 119 million people (SAMHSA, 2003). Of these persons, 54 million (22.6%) participated in binge drinking, and 16.1 million (6.8%) could be considered 
The Front of the SAMHSA building at 1 Choke Ch...
The Front of the SAMHSA building at 1 Choke Cherry Road in Rockville, Maryland. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
heavy drinkers. Approximately 22 million adults met the DSM-IV-TR criterion for alcohol abuse or alcohol dependence (SAMHSA, 2003).

When it comes to Internet usage, the most frequent search word is “sex.” Google and Yahoo have developed their search engines to deal with this word and other words associated with “sex.” In the Internet economic sector according to Arrington, 2007 and Carnes, 2001, “sex” generates 2.84 billion dollars annually.
The advertisers understand that in order to make billions they have to spend billions. Over half of all spending on the Internet is related to sexual themes and activity. Further, advertisers understand that 70% of cyberporn viewing on the Internet occurs between the hours of 9 a.m. and 5 p.m. on weekdays.

A staggering 200 sexual related websites are added to the Internet every day. If the word “sex” is associated with the website and someone can provide a service, then the advertisement they expended to get people there is financially worth it.

Almost 9 million people in the United States need intervention for their sexually compulsive use of cybersex. There are an additional 15 million who are using cybersex moderately and show beginning signs of sexual compulsivity.

In order to have access to the Internet individuals must purchase, rent, borrow, or find other methods on their pursuit of reaching these “sex” theme websites. Monitoring the young adult’s sexual behavior or exposure to has become a major problem in the United States because the attitude is not one of safe-guarding children, but providing them with the tools to keep up with the Jones’.

In the college world 30% of all Internet users are individuals who are attending some type of college. The average college students expends approximately 3 hours a day on the Internet. Of these college students, sex on-line is an every-day occurrence. Friends of friends have knowledge on how to access these pornographic websites without paying for them or they know what websites will provide them with enough pornography so they can masturbate to the sexual images or videos.

The attitude of children to young adults to adults is to find sexual or violent enjoyment and pleasure from many outlets, may it be gaming or pornographic websites. The need to find excitement in the individual’s world is a must. No longer do mom and dad come home fix dinner and sit down and then watch television.

Today’s family is in competition with one another “pleasures palaces”, either being on their mobile telephone or on their computer chatting on Facebook or Twitter.  It is not unusual to hear about the mother or father who expends relentless hours on the computer surfing the chat rooms. It has become easier to chat in the chat rooms than with their spouse or partner.

Tomorrow, the research and information which is available about technological and sexual addictions is plentiful. There are many avenues to explore and a need to understand the craziness which is behind the “pleasure centers” people now seek on not a daily basis but a minute by minute basis. Finding instant gratification is today’s madness and craziness and this will continue until someone realizes that there is only so much one person can handle in a period of a day. Bottom line something has to give and eventually it is the psychic and the numerous emotional and mental disorders which are created from being in the technological and sexual addiction world.


Lawrence W. Daly
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