Understanding Sexual and Technological Addictions. Are You Or Your Children Already Addicted? Part XII

Lawrence W. Daly, MSc

Albert Einstein during a lecture in Vienna in 1921
Albert Einstein during a lecture in Vienna in 1921 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.”
Albert Einstein

Over the past couple months I have identified the serious problem sexual addiction is not only in your home, but worldwide. The many evaluations, examinations, suggestions, and ideas I hope have led you to a new understanding about technological and sexual addict. So let us look at a new perspective of technological and sexual addiction; solutions, resolutions, recovery, and treatment.

You just discovered that your child is a sexual addict, because the mobile telephone and computer you purchase for him to utilize for emergencies and home work; instead the child has been using these techno gadgets to access pornographic websites.

It is time to turn that knowledge into having knowledge about the addictions to trying to understand and find a way to mend people’s heart. It takes much work to find methods and techniques which will work for each child.
Children gathering potatoes on a large farm, v...
Children gathering potatoes on a large farm, vicinity of Caribou, Aroostook County, Me. Schools do not open until the potatoes are harvested. (LOC) (Photo credit: The Library of Congress)

The solutions you have are plentifully but the step by step process is basically an individual process which you need to deal with. Each individual has their own way of dealing with what will be their solution in how to resolve being technologically and sexually addicted or related to someone who is addicted. Let us look at some of those areas of resolution and solutions:


    1 .      To stop the exposure and use of the techno gadget is simply not a reasonable nor logical approach to addressing the problem.  The techno gadget may have a purpose i.e. homework, work, and so forth. If this is the reason for having the child use the techno gadget then there must be some type of accountability and responsibility by the parent, employer, teacher, and so forth to monitoring the child’s use of the techno gadgets.
    2.      The surfing of the Internet for pornographic websites must come to a stop. The purpose of locating “pleasure zones” has no place in a child’s life and is inappropriate. The parent must take steps to monitor this behavior.
      3.     A couple steps that the parent can take to monitor the child’s behavior in using the techno gadget are to have the child use the techno gadgets in the living room where everyone is and child’s activities can be monitored. Further, have a time limit for the child to utilize the techno gadget.      
     4.      Setting boundaries is a must when it comes to anything the child does with their time. There must be rules which the child must adhere to.
    5.      The parent must seek a professional i.e. a counselor, life coach, or consultant who specializes in technological and sexual addiction. At the beginning of meeting with the professional, the child should have counseling sessions with the professional at least 2-3 times a week until the behavior curtails or ceases completely.
   6.    The child needs to set new goals to find something which is constructive and productive. Something which provides a new direction for the child to build upon. The use of techno gadgets are something that are utilized by society, but anything can be abused.
     7.      Parents must take time to expend whatever time necessary with the child to stop the current acting out. 
     8.      Parents need to set goals and be positive about the milestones the child accomplishes along the way.
      9.     The child needs to be in a group with other children who have the same problems. The child needs to know they are not the only individual who has this problem. The child needs to feel that they can share the reasons they are obsessed with using the techno gadget and the need to surf the Internet for “pleasure zones.”
    10.  The child needs to be tested by a psychologists to identify any psychological problems the child may have i.e. obsessive compulsive disorder. The need to continually use the techno gadget maybe an organic problem. Medication may curtail or stop the behavior.
     11.  The child needs to find alternatives to using the techno gadget e.g. using the library and searching for information by using books, journals, articles, and so forth.

There are many other steps which a parent can take to curtail the use of the many techno gadgets available to children. Techno gadgets have become a way the child can socialize. A parent doesn’t want their child to become an odd ball or outcast because they are not allowed to socialize with their friends.

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Child 1 (Photo credit: Tony Trần)
The future socializing networks such as Facebook are beginning to consider charging everyone for the use of their system. Only time will tell if the social networking companies are willing to take the chance to limit their audience to only those who can pay for the services. Currently there are
 700 million users on Facebook and more to come.

The alternatives to limiting the child to utilizing the techno gadgets are abundant, but the parent and child need to be creative, innovative, and willing to make life style changes which are positive.

There are no fast and easy answers to these problems and it will be a learning process for the child and parent. When changing the way you socialize with others will be difficult, but doable. The need to surf the Internet for “pleasure zones” needs to be completely stopped. There are no reasons why a child should be on the Internet surfing for pornography, sex chat rooms, and so many other “pleasure zones.”

Tomorrow, children are those who are being victimized by major corporations. Once exposed to the new techno gadgets the child will pursue the newest and brightest gadgets. The cost to the parents can be astronomical. There is only so much a parent can do to curtail and stop a child from acting out, ask them to abide by the rules, limit the amount of time to utilizing the techno gadgets, and so forth. It is so important that the parent realize that the obsessive behavior demonstrated in utilizing the techno gadgets and surfing the Internet for “pleasure zones” may mold the child into a world which may befall the child of their future.

To learn my own simple framework for creating a more enjoyable life, see my books Battles of The Flesh 2ed, It Could Happen To You and Code of Conduct on Amazon/Kindle.   
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