Understanding Sexual and Technological Addictions. Are You Or Your Children Already Addicted? Part VI

Franklin and Billy Graham, in Cleveland Stadiu...Franklin and Billy Graham, in Cleveland Stadium, in Cleveland Ohio, in June 1994 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Lawrence W. Daly, MSc

God is more interested in your future and your relationships than you are.”

It is an old wise tale that Christians should not date non-Christians. The reason for this tale comes from specific interpretations of the scriptures in the Bible one reads from.  The numerous citing’s inside the Bible can make you a believer or a non-believer of the possibilities this discussion will detail.

Girl Friend (manga)Girl Friend (manga) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)With technological and sexual addiction the issues not only surround the religion one believes in but what happens when you have an individual who can’t stop texting their girl-friend or boy-friend? When the Christian parents tell their son or daughter that enough is enough and they will stop being friends with non-Christians and they will not use any tec
hnological device to contact this person.

The first issue which comes to mind is there will probably be a rebellion in the home but if the son or daughter respects their parent’s wishes then contact should cease. The children can make their own decisions when they turn 18 or they are living under a new set of rules in someone else’s home possibly their own. It may not be fair to some of you, but there are worse things children could complain about.

So what is this no dating non-Christians all about?  Why does it matter what religion your girl-friend or boy-friend believe in; if any? In Deuteronomy 7:3-4 it states:

You shall not intermarry with them, giving your daughters to their sons or taking their daughters for your sons, for they would turn away your sons from following me, to serve other gods. Then the anger of the Lord would be kindled against you, and he would destroy you quickly. But thus shall you deal with them: you shall break down their altars and dash in 
pieces their pillars and chop down their Asherim and burn their carved images with fire.

It seems from this passage that God is quiet clear on his belief that believers are not to marry believers. Maybe one of the issues is God saw a conflict between believers and non-believers and as he states, “for they would turn away your sons from following me.”

Christian Bible, rosary, and crucifix.Christian Bible, rosary, and crucifix. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)This doesn’t seem unreasonable, because if you were working at Costco would it be alright to be a non-believer of Costco’s rules, but an outspoken advocate for the rules of Target and everyone should believe in Target’s rules as an employee of Costco. There is definitely an obvious conflict because you can’t serve two masters and your loyalty should be given to the employer you are working for i.e. Costco in this example.

So why is it so difficult to explain to young people that their loyalty should be to God, if they believe in Him, instead of a non-Christian believing friend? Some of the questions that come to mind are the Christians to believe that God doesn’t want this young person to hang out with this friend and give them a spiritual guidance to becoming a believer. Unfortunately, history has demonstrated that the non-believing Christian may have a more compelling belief system which will move the believer into becoming a non-believer. It is the dangling the carrot to an individual that their beliefs are wrong and Jesus was just a good old boy.

Too often good intentions turn out to be confusing and changed intentions without the good intended person seeing it coming at them. Let us look at another scripture what God states about the believer versus non-believers:

After these things had been done, the officials approached me and said, “The people of Israel and the priests and the Levites have not separated themselves from the peoples of the lands with their abominations, from the Canaanites, the Hittites, the Perizzites, the Jebusites, the Ammonites, the Moabites, the Egyptians, and the Amorites. For they have taken some of their daughters to be wives for themselves and for their sons, so that the holy race[a]has mixed itself with the peoples of the lands. And in this faithlessness the hand of the officials and chief men has been foremost (Ezra 9:1-2).

In the end the Jewish husbands ended up divorcing the wives they had taken. God made some changes in his laws when Paul wrote the following:

To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. 13 If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. 15 But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you[b]to peace. 16 For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife (1Corinthians 7:12-16)?

Well God sure changed his approach to believers and non-believers. The caveat though is if the non-believing spouse wants to leave “let her.” Imagine in today’s world some of these laws being applied. Pastor Mark Driscoll the teaching pastor at Mar’s Hills in Ballard, Washington states, “Jesus came to fulfill the laws of the Old Testament and that is what he did therefore any laws in the Old Testament no longer applies.” I would ask Pastor Driscoll if the laws are similar in the Old and New Testament; do you still believe the same principals he is advocating?

The AddictionThe Addiction (Photo credit: coreycam)In today’s environment the emotional entanglements come from the use of the technological devices especially the smart mobile telephones which seem to possess a majority of the people’s time. This addiction makes the non-believer and believer additionally complicated. The time committed to texting, sexting, and talking on the smart mobile telephones is consuming and addictive.

Advice by some of the present day pastors and priests follows God laws to the letter in the Bible. If you try to pry the ties away from the individuals who are establishing relationships based on common interests, believer or non-believer doesn’t seem to be that big of a concern.

If Pastor Driscoll is correct and Jesus did fulfill the laws of the Old Testament, then besides Paul’s word in 1Corinthians, then maybe it isn’t as black and white as believers and non-believers believe it is. Moreover, the use of technological devices to enhance the relationships and the need for more and more creates the addictive process, which may lead to other addictions, such as sexual addiction.

Tomorrow, the information we discussed today may be viewed as a foundation to discuss further the issues surrounding relationships, addictions, and life’s conflicts. There is much to examine and evaluate and tomorrow will be a great start to continue this journey.

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