Understanding Sexual and Technological Addictions. Are You Or Your Children Already Addicted? Part XXII By Lawrence W. Daly, MSc

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Pierre Corneille (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

“I don't know how to defend myself: surprised innocence cannot imagine being under suspicion.”
The new generation of parents began their journey in the “Xbox Generation” and has now moved to the Internet to continue their new games. There are many different attitudes, thoughts, ideas, and questions about what is the right thing to do when it comes to purchasing the new techno gadgets i.e. entertainment and allowing their children to access the Internet.

The “Xbox Generation” believes their children have progressed from nap sacks being filled with books and video games to nap sacks full of laptops, iPads, and iPhones. This shift in the way children communicate is being accepted as a culture change and one which is positive.

The problem with anything new is there can be an over use and abuse of the opportunity to become involved in technology. There are stories of children playing the Xbox on the television for days at a time, not even stopping to use the restroom. The manner in which there has been a change is the techno gadgets allow for movement i.e. mobility, portable, while playing the games, so the child has the opportunity to walk into the bathroom and do their thing.

Some people shake their heads at the new technology and make statements such as, “I am not going to buy any of those techno gadgets and my kids can whine all they want;” “I just bought my three year old a toy truck, he is not going to be getting a iPad for years to come.” Depending on whom you ask you will receive a different response.

If you are a parent and you believe there is nothing wrong with purchasing your child a new techno gadget and allowing them to surf the Internet then that is a decision that you have to make for you and your child. However, the purchase of the techno gadget should begin with a series of protection and education for the child so they do not find themselves running into the ‘dark side’ of the Internet.
English: The Xbox console with the S controlle...
English: The Xbox console with the S controller, made by Microsoft. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Some parents seem oblivious to the dangers in which the Internet can destroy a child’s mental, emotional, and physiological state. In the good old days parents could buy their child an Xbox, buy a video game and have the child sit in front of television. The preview and decision by the parents was allegedly the video game was playable as long as it didn’t have language issues, nudity, violence, and other concerns.

Today, the parent has no way of knowing when the child is sitting in front of the computer what their child is being exposed to when they are on the Internet. There are some things a parent can do to prevent the child from finding themselves in the ‘dark side’ of the Internet. They are:

1.      Place parental controls on the techno gadget that the child has access to.
2.      Place safeguard software on the techno gadget the child will be using.
3.      Educate your child in what is allowable when using the techno gadget.
4.      Set boundaries, guidelines, and rules for the child to follow when using the techno gadgets.
5.      Set discipline policies which the child will understand from the beginning.
6.      Set up checks and balances so you as a parent can monitor what Internet activity the child surfed on to.
7.      Ascertain the child’s UserID and passwords for every social networking account.
8.      Make sure as a parent the child does not obtain one of your credit cards from your wallet and use the credit card number and provide it to a website.
9.      Make sure that when the child is using the techno gadget the child has to be in the same room that the parent is in.
10.  Set the router in your home to either be turned off or limited when the child can utilize their techno gadget and obtain access on the Internet when you are away from home.

There are many other precautions a parent should take when obtaining a techno gadget that can access the Internet. No longer are the days where you just sit your child down in front of the television and turn on the Xbox, turn on the television, and put in the video game. As stated above thin
SAN FRANCISCO - JANUARY 27: Apple Inc. CEO Steve Jobs holds up the new iPad as he speaks during an Apple Special Event at Yerba Buena Center for the Arts January 27, 2010 in San Francisco, California. Apple introduced its latest creation, the iPad, a mobile tablet browsing device that is a cross between the iPhone and a MacBook laptop. (Image credit: Getty Images via @daylife)

gs have changed and so must parents and children who want to have access to the new techno gadgets and Internet need supervision at all times.

All is not bad when allowing your child to have a techno gadget and access the Internet. Everything must done in moderation, there must be a balance and limits. Let us turn to the positive aspects of allowing your child to utilize the new techno gadgets and access to the Internet. They are as follows:

      1.      It allows the child to be mobile as the techno gadgets for the most part are mobile and portable. The size and weight of the techno gadgets are reasonable for a child to carry around. Safety becomes an issue if the child is mobile but not paying attention to where they are going. There has been an increase in injuries to the younger generation for walking into polls, walls, tripping, and so forth so safety and education about usage is a must.
       2.      It allows the child to multi-task. They can use the mobile telephone why working on the lap top. It isn’t advisable to have your five year old doing these types of tasks, but from the adolescent ages up they should be able to handle this type of scenario.
   3. It allows the child to be productive. The techno gadgets allow tasks to be               performed and accomplished in a significant faster time.
    4.    It teaches the child how to be creative and innovative. The opportunity to explore multiple educational websites is beyond its time.

      Children have history on the end of their fingertips. In one click they can be reading about NASA and the next minute listening to soft rock music or both. The information is expansive and there is not enough time in someone’s lifetime to access all of the informational resources available at this time and in the immediate future.

The need to find a balance which protects the sanity of your child is needed, necessary, a must, and should be written in concrete in your daily planner. It should read, “What techno gadget is my child using today, and is he/she being intelligent and safe; am I being a competent and intelligent parent who is protecting my child from potential injury and harm?”

As a parent this should be in the forefront of your brain every day. Parents need to remind themselves that children of all ages are vulnerable, naïve and ignorant. It is the parent’s duty to protect and preserve the child from injury, harm, and potential death. The stress and anxiety that these techno gadgets bring to the table for your child is so demanding it will be years before society knows and understands the complete impact, positive and negative, they have on children, as well as adults. Only time will tell.

Tomorrow, there are still a couple issues which haven’t been addressed in this series with three articles remaining to be written. The technological and sexual addicts appear to have everything happening and going against them. However, if anyone can adjust and recover it is the human race and there is no doubt with God’s assistance there can be a change in the way the technological and sexual addicts address their problems.

Lawrence W. Daly
Puyallup, WA

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